Fathers, Ancestors and the Path to Healthy, Authentic Masculinity
6 day Holistic Men’s Retreat w/ Plant Medicine in Ibiza, Spain
Mar 11 – 16, 2025
The Journey
Avalon brings the best of Ibiza, including Magic Mushrooms & San Pedro, to a holistic program for men's work. We guide you to become a better father, husband, lover, and brother – for & by men. Join an experience to shift the old patterns and create a new perspective to develop a better relationship with yourself and others. Receive the support of other brothers, reconnect with your body, and release traumatic memories. Open yourself to feeling in a group and, most importantly, choose the type of man you want to experience this life.
Healing the ‘Masculine Wound’
Healing the ‘masculine wound’ requires two essential steps: First, we must restore the lost connection to our ancestors, even if they committed many sins. Secondly, we need to transform emotions such as disappointment and anger that block the flow of love between us and our father.
Our ancestors made immeasurable sacrifices and suffered greatly to protect their families and secure a better future for us. They fought and suffered for the survival of their families. But they also committed grave injustices, especially against women, the weak and the innocent. That is often one reason why many men do not want to become like their fathers. But the paradox is that if we do not honour our ancestors, it is as if we are cutting off our own roots. In doing so, we deny ourselves a profound source of inner strength, ancient wisdom and the continuous flow of masculine energy.
In modern times, millions of sons have lost their fathers in World War II, followed by a generation of post-war fathers who were absent and too busy to be there for their sons. As a result, entire generations of sons grew up without present, engaged fathers. Even when a father was physically present, he often remained distant on a deeper emotional level.
This lack of connection and the absence of a strong male role model can lead to deep existential insecurity. Fatherless men often become uprooted and struggle to define their role as a leader, father, lover or brother. Some overcompensate by inflating their ego, while others remain self-conscious. In extreme cases, lost sons resort to machismo, violence or join dangerous ideologies.
In this module, we will explore our relationships with our fathers. Through radical honesty we will express both disappointment and gratitude. With the help of Hellinger constellations, rituals and prayers, we will seek ways to respect our fathers, honour their sacrifices and maybe finally reconcile with them.
My Personal Journey - Sudhir Seyboth
It all began in 1991 when I led my first men's group. It was a most rewarding and humbling adventure, working with men from all over the world. Now, as an elder in the field with three decades of experience, I look back with deep gratitude at the men I have met along the way. They have taught me much - perhaps even more than I have guided them. I don't feel like a teacher. This work is not about imparting knowledge. I feel more like a friend moving together with passion and courage on a journey into the unknown.
The most profound turning point in my life came in the 1980s, when I was 25. At that time, I was a German engineer developing software for the automotive industry. My career was thriving, characterised by recognition and a huge salary. Nevertheless, I could not shake off a deep feeling of emptiness. The questions of life - What is my goal? Is there more to life than just money and success? – would not let me rest. Eventually I listened to this inner voice. I sold all my belongings at a flea market, left Munich and Germany behind forever and set off on a journey that would change my life.
My search for meaning and purpose first took me to the serene mountains of Kerala, India, where I studied at the Shivananda Yoga Ashram and became a certified yoga teacher. A year later, I met the Indian mystic Osho in Pune, an encounter that became a pivotal turning point in my life. In the vibrant energy of the Osho commune, I spent more than a decade diving deep into meditation, therapy training and personal growth work. It was in this multicultural melting pot where I led my very first retreat for men.
Over the past 30 years I have dedicated myself to this work, leading men's groups and retreats all over the world. From India to Germany, from Sweden to Ibiza, I have sat in circle with men of all ages and walks of life. Together we have explored profound questions about power, purpose, peace, sex, love, vulnerability and courage.
I trained extensively in holistic healing practices such as yoga, meditation, inner child therapy, bioenergetics, breath therapy, NLP and family constellations. These methods have taught me to understand not only the mind, but also heart and soul. In 1995, I was appointed Director of the Mystery School at the Osho Centre for Transformation in Pune. But at the peak of my "spiritual career", my son was born. I left this spiritual paradise to figure out how to be a good father. I think I have succeeded pretty well, and I am very proud of my son. He embodies a new masculinity - a whole human being with a wonderful balance of masculine and feminine energies.
I then moved to Ibiza in 2008. In 2012 I got married and entered a relationship with a strong and beautiful woman. The challenges and the journey of growth continue. Now, at the age of 67, I am embarking on a new adventure: the integration of therapy, meditation and plant healing work.
It remains my passion to continue this work - creating space for stories of transformation and experiencing the incredible strength that comes when men become friends and brothers. Together we build communities based on trust and connection. This is not just my work - it is my calling. And I am humbled and grateful to walk this path.
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